When was the last time you seriously thought about the words you use each and everyday? How carefully do you select them? Ever thought that your words blaze a trail? We’ll be going to discuss about how your own words have an impact over you in this post.
Now, you might be thinking, “Raiyyan, why all this fuss about words? What’s the big deal?” The answer is simple. Your words have incredible power! They can build a bright future, destroy opportunity or help maintain the status quo. Your words reinforce your beliefs … and your beliefs create your reality. Think of this process as a row of dominos that looks like this:
THOUGHTS → WORDS → BELIEFS → ACTIONS → RESULTS
How It Works
And here’s how it works. Mark has a THOUGHT, such as “I’m not very good when it comes to studies.” Now, let’s remember that he doesn’t have this thought only once. Oh, no, He’s run it through his mind on a regular basis, maybe hundreds or thousands of times in his life! Then, Mark starts to use WORDS that support this thought. he says to his friends and colleagues, “I’m never going to do very well in studies” or “I hate making notes or approaching prospects.” Here again, Mark repeats these phrases over and over… in his self-talk and in his discussions with others.
This, in turn strengthens his BELIEFS — and it’s at this stage where the rubber really meets the road. You see, everything that you’ll achieve in your life flows from your beliefs. So, in our example, Mark develops the belief that he’s not going to be successful in studies and that he won’t get a good job. This becomes embedded in his subconscious mind.
What can possibly flow from that belief? Because Mark doesn’t believe in his potential, he takes very little ACTION, or he takes actions that are not at all productive. He doesn’t do the things that would be necessary to succeed in his studies.
And the, quite predictably, Mark gets very poor RESULTS. To make matters even worse, Mark the starts to think more negatively… repeat more negative words… reinforce negative beliefs… and get even more negative results. You see? It’s a vicious cycle!
Of course, this whole process could have had a very happy ending if Mark had selected positive THOUGHTS… and fortified them with positive WORDS. In turn, he’d reinforce the BELIEF that he’s successful. As a result, Mark would take the ACTIONS consistent with that belief… and wind up with outstanding RESULTS!
My point is don’t underestimate the role of your WORDS in this process. People who feed themselves a steady diet of negative words are destined to have a negative perspective towards their life. It’s a simple matter of cause and effect. You can’t keep repeating negative words and expect to be a high achiever. And that’s because negative words will always lead to the underpinning of negative beliefs — and eventually to negative outcomes!
To Tell … Or Not To Tell
When I tell you about the importance of using positive language to move you toward your goals, you may be wondering, “Do I say these positive words to myself or do I also say these words to other people?” You may be afraid that if you tell others about your goals, they’ll think you’re being conceited — and they may even laugh at you.
Well, with the understanding that there are no “hard and fast” rules — and you should do what works best for you. To begin with, use positive self-talk as often as possible. In my view, the more blithe. After all, you’re talking to yourself, so you don’t have to worry about the others hearing your comments. The key is that you hear this positive input again and again … and it becomes deeply rooted in your subconscious mind.
Never do that!
Whether to share your goals with other people is much trickier issue. One thing I’ve learned is this: Never discuss your goals with negative people. All they’ll do is argue and point out all the reasons why you won’t be successful! Who need that? Often, these “negative ones” are those who do little or nothing in their lives. They have no goals or dreams — and they don’t want anyone else to succeed.
Yet, there are some instances when you can benefit by telling others about your goals. First of all, make sure that you’re speaking with someone who’s extremely positive and totally supportive of your efforts. This should be the kind of person who woulds be absolutely delighted if you achieved this goal… and would do anything in his o her power to assist you. you may have a friend or colleague that fits this role — or certain family members. It is also important to share your goals with others who are working with you to achieve that outcome.
End of this part. Next one will be up soon… Stay tuned.